Human beings have an amazing and powerful capacity: imagination. We can visualize how our futures will look like, and gauge the impact of our decisions before we make them.
We can imagine scenarios, both good and bad, even if reality is far from our mental images. These visual stories play a very important role in our lives.
What Story Do You Tell Yourself?
The reason we believe the stories we tell ourselves is that they come from a trusted source, i.e., our own first-hand experiences—with an added imaginative element that comes from our own brain. Another reason they are so powerful is that they stir up real emotions.
This is why they can make or break us. We can either use these stories to progress and advance in life by enhancing our self-confidence, or we can dwell on a story revolving around self-pity and go down a spiral, generating patterns of negative thinking.
The thing about all of these stories is that they visually depict our own beliefs about ourselves based on true experiences. These beliefs however, can be positive or limiting.
How Stories Depict Our Beliefs
Let’s say people close to you have always loved the way you talk while presenting onstage. This may lead to your brain conjuring positive stories, enhancing the belief that you are well-spoken and know the art of good conversation.
On the other hand, someone whose dreams have been ignored by people their entire lives may take pleasure in stories that revolve around the negative aspects of experiences. These dreams can actually hold people back from achieving the success they want to achieve by limiting them.
Change Your Beliefs To Change Your Narrative
The mind only reflects what it believes.
If you want to let go of the constant negative narrative in your life, you’ll need to go back and fix your beliefs.
Since most negative beliefs regarding‘self’ are formed when our basic need for feeling validated is denied, the best way to start the healing process is to fulfill that need.
Reframing needs is a technique that can help. It works by giving your needs a new context, making them easier to meet.
To try out reframing, you can easily download NIKU, an app available on both the Apple App Store and the Google PlayStore. This app functions as an online psychological counselor or a life coach, helping you look at life with a fresh, new perspective.