If you’re an empath or a highly sensitive person, you’ve likely had this experience: a close friend calls when they are in need. You look at your phone and cringe, because you know that if you pick up the phone, they are going to drain you of your energy. And yet, you attend the call because you really care about them.
To avoid this all-too-common scenario, it is important to define boundaries. Here are some of the most effective ways to do so for empaths.
Don’t Agree To Everything In The Moment
Empaths are hyper-sensitive when it comes to those in need, and will always be available when someone is ailing or reaches out. This is something that ends up taking a toll on their energy.
But here’s the thing, to be able to help people, empaths need to make sure that they themselves are doing alright emotionally. This is because constantly being available and taking care of people is draining.
So the next time someone asks you if you have time to listen to their problems, ask yourself: do I really have the time? Do I have the emotional energy? Will it be a good use of my time? Which brings us to:
Find Kind Ways To Say No
It’s important to say no to things that drain you. But for empaths, it’s one of the most difficult things as someone could get hurt or upset.
This is why it is important to find softer and more polite ways to say no.
Things like, “I’d love to help you but I’m really caught up right now” and “I’m really tired/overworked right now, can we talk later?” can soften the blow.
Accept The Concept Of Boundaries—How NIKU Helps
Since empathy draws from feelings created when going through similar—sometimes intensely tough—times, the best way to encourage acceptance around creating boundaries is to resolve the feelings surrounding our tough times.
Because most intense times experienced early on in life result in one or more of our basic human needs going unfulfilled, the only way to start the healing process is to fulfill our own needs.
That is the only way we can help people around us effectively.
The NIKU app works on the reframing principle, giving your needs an entirely new frame and making them easier to meet.
To try out reframing, you can easily download NIKU, an app available on both the Apple App Store and the Google PlayStore. This app functions as an online psychological counselor or a life coach, helping you look at life with a fresh, new perspective.